HOW I EMBRACED MY DEVINE FEMININE

For the majority of my life I suppressed my femininity. For years I lived in my masculine.

Why? At the time I had no idea I was even doing this, but now looking back I am aware that...

I didn’t feel safe dropping into my feminine.

I didn’t feel worthy of being feminine or attractive.

I wanted to feel strong, safe, protected.

I didn’t feel worthy of love, I had very little self love so I fell into my masculine energy. I didn’t “need anyone else”, I was fine on my own.

I built up my amour in the gym, lifting weights and creating literally an armour of muscle to protect me. I pushed to reach goals, I always kept busy, I was extremely driven, never gave up and showed very little emotion. Yes some of these qualities are helpful in life, but when there is an imbalance and extreme of these it is no longer helpful. Just like an imbalance in anything in life. When we have balance we “work at our best” and can live a life in flow and to the fullest.

I was scared. I was scared to be feminine, as I thought being feminine would make me weak and vulnerable and I could get easily hurt.

Being feminine is not about wearing pretty dresses, getting your nails done and being submissive... it is about connecting to your divine feminine essence. To tap into your intuition, to nurture and love yourself and others, to be at one with mother nature, to be creative, to be free flowing, to allow your emotions to flow and show to heal and to be confident in being the true and full expression of yourself.

Both men and women have masculine and feminine energies. In order to lead a balanced life, a life connected to yourself, others and the world, as well as heal yourself and the world it is important to create a balance in these energies, the two parts that make up the “whole” you.

Throughout the centuries both men and women have been almost “forced” by society to confirm to a certain mould. This fast paced world has pushing us more into our masculine. To be successful, to fit in and to be loved often we can feel as though the need to constantly strive for this “success”, money, a car, new home, epic job etc..... and often we feel we can only achieve this when we drop into our masculine.

For both women and men, we can also feel safe and protected in our masculine, just as I did.

I felt as though I wasn’t worthy of love and was scared to get hurt, so in order to “protect myself” I did not allow myself to drop into my feminine, express my emotions outwardly or express and share my love. I thought if I don’t drop into my vulnerable, truthful, heartfelt feminine then I can’t get hurt right?

Wrong...

By suppressing my feminine essence I was hurting myself. I was denying one whole side of myself to shine through, to live through me. I was denying myself of love. I was denying myself of connection. I was inwardly hurting even though my hard exterior shell showed others otherwise.

To others I looked strong, determined, driven, confident. But I wasn’t happy and I didn’t know my identity. After all how can you know who you truely are if you only allow one side of you to be expressed?

The journey to connecting back to your feminine is a process. A process that I started about four years ago now. There is no write or wrong way to do this, you simply need to connect to your heart and ask yourself “what do I need?’’, “how can I heal you divine feminine?”.

Also to realise that there is no “mould” of femininity. Basically if you rock who you are, with true self love, self worth and confidence... that is feminine as FK!

And for any man reading this, if you allow yourself to drop into your feminine also.... this is sexy as (and in contradiction) masculine as FK!

How I embraced my inner feminine essence?

Like I said it is a continual process and a process I check in with and connect to every day, as in this world it can be easy to drop back into your masculine energy. A list of things that personally help me connect to my divine feminine essence include (some of these may or may not resonate with you as it’s all about personal connection to self):

-meditation
-being in nature
-journalling
-yoga
-spending time in the ocean (the water element is healing)
-doing things that I LOVE, that light me up, like surfing, skating, traveling
-using oracle cards
-using gemstones
-getting together with like minded women
-raising other women up and feeling inspired by women
-holding womens circles and creating space for women to open up and feel safe
-mindful movement
-eating nutritious high vibrational foods
-allowing myself to rest and recover
-looking after my skin and hair with natural products (check out ‘Antonia’s Sanctuary’ for her wellness range)
-dressing how I feel confident and feminine, rocking my own style
-personal and spiritual development constantly exploring who I am
-showing and expressing and working through my emotions
-being confident in who I AM not who society or others wish I should be
-self love and self care
-being discerning with my energy
-exploring and listening to my intuition
-being creative, e.g writing, drawing, sewing

Through daily connection to my feminine I have learnt it IS SAFE to be in my feminine, it is safe to allow my amour to drop away, it is safe to express my emotions, it is safe to be my authentic self. When I drop into my feminine I feel calm, relaxed, loving and in touch with myself, others around me and the world.

The Devine feminine power in the world is now slowly starting to heal, with a rise in awareness and consciousness each and every single one of us can start to heal our feminine, to connect to our feminine and as a result begin to heal the world.

**Note: It is important not to suppress your masculine energy either. Heating your masculine is just as important as healing your feminine. Balance is the key! Both men and women need a balance of masculine AND feminine energies to be in a flow state.

If you are having trouble connecting to your feminine or resonate with this blog at all (trust me you definitely are not alone) I would love to hear from you. Either send me an inbox or comment below.

With love & light, Mandy xxx